I had a client meeting in town yesterday, in a location just down the street from the Cambridge Cemetery where my paternal grandparents are buried. This is the grandmother I was searching for when I went to Ireland, so I decided to stop by and say “hello” to the ground in which she is interred. Although I had visited the grave a few years ago with my father, I had no clue where in the cemetery I would find the stone. So I stopped at the main office and inquired. I vaguely remembered my ancestors were located on “Mistletoe Path.” My memory was confirmed. Not only that, but the secretary was happy to print off the original orders for the plot including name, age, cause of death, etc. for both my grandparents.
With documents in hand and a map to guide me, I easily found the spot and took pictures. But here is the interesting part. The headstone has their names and dates but those for my grandmother are all wrong. Her name is inverted and her birth date makes her 14 younger than she really was, and five years younger than her husband! She actually was six years older than him and she died not at the age of 44 as the stone would suggest but at the age of 57!!!
Life moves too quickly to muck up such things… and why would anyone fudge with the dates just to make her appear younger? Oh vanity of vanities. My mother did the same thing with my birth certificate… fudging the years so she appeared to be younger than my father.. which was not true.
I guess they really cared about such things back “in the day.” Do we still care now? Does it really matter if you are older or younger than your spouse?